My Body Remembers: a post on Domestic Violence

For some who see confrontation as another war, pain is their safe haven.

Picture gotten from-JenniferLeigh

Giving people another chance can be your deepest weakness especially when you’ve tied love, fear and being alone as your reason. Sometimes our culture, religion, society and believes hold us down, people too. Often, confiding in someone becomes what is best fitted and not what the worst case scenario may be, as you only give in bits and pieces of what seem to be an endless fight for you. Loneliness could sometimes be your resort as you don’t want these other people judging and cursing you for remaining.

Woman, Man, this is for you. You, who go through hell in those walls I don’t see. You, who choose to love even when it’s been stripped off of its pure nature and presented bitter. You, who blame yourself for another’s mess  and go into depression and anxiety for feeling less understood and undervalued. I write for the man/woman seeking a god for change each time another chance is given to your oppressor. The man/woman held by ethics to embrace brutality and self-harm of many kinds.

Look at those defining scars. Listen to your own resistance, how it bleeds. Measure up how much you’ve endured, the time you wished ticked faster and the throbbing of your heart each time you attempt to hold back. You are bold to have endured. You are strong to have stayed. Your tear bags are however running out.

Resonate. It’s not too late if you’re reading this. Here’s a sign that there is hope.

The therapy you need starts with you walking away love. I encourage you, the world that doesn’t support this does too. You are valued and you are loved, not by the people that cause you pain neither is it by the toxic river you’re drowning in, but by a better world waiting for you out here.

Dear Man,

Dear Woman,

No matter how rigid you may be, how discreet you may hide the scars, your body will always remember. It will tell.


Dyna Ekwueme Copyright, 2016.



15 Comments Add yours

  1. chrisdavies09 says:

    Powerful writing, thank you for sharing. And yes, #saynotodomesticviolence

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  2. ipeniwrite says:

    Thank you for reading too🌸


  3. noblethemes says:

    Fabulous and oh-so very true! Excellent, rational, compassionate counsel… Thank you on behalf of all those who suffer domestic violence!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. ipeniwrite says:

    Thank you too for making it here dear🌸

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  5. kiranmag says:

    Domestic violence…understand each others feelings and the consequences before doing such a cheap act.

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  6. ipeniwrite says:

    Yes dear🌸..thank you for sharing

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  7. katexann says:

    In my country Peru,thats very common,they are always news about a woman killed by her husband,a few days ago we had a protested against that called#niunamenos,it was very supported, i wish this could be use to give more importance about the problem

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  8. ipeniwrite says:

    That is really sad. The media won’t alleviate the problem as the culprits are neither here or educated on the consequences of what they are doing. I believe this is a starting point and a voice too for those seeking for help. People putting this up too can trigger higher authorities to help with fighting oppression of any kind. Thank you dear for sharing the happenings in Peru. I appreciate.


  9. Much needed views to be garnered by today’s society! Very well written – especially, the first line; reflects such a dark reality.

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  10. Osaru says:

    Many people never seem to understand the true effect of domestic violence. At most they would shake their heads and cross their arms in an attempt to sympathise with the victims but that’s as far as it goes . It stops with just them and it never gets out. Many are scared to talk about it openly because some part of their minds want to forget and block out the possibility that there’s such a thing in the world and everyday people like them suffer it continually . It’s scary how humans only want to relate on the surface but not go deeper into the understanding of the effects of these crimes against the body, the mind and the heart. In a world where so many seem to want to fight for human rights and safety… it’s sad that the fight mostly only goes as far as talking but hardly ever acting.

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  11. ipeniwrite says:

    Thank you for airing your thoughts dear🌸

    Liked by 2 people

  12. ipeniwrite says:

    You wrote my mind and exactly what I thought of before putting down this piece. This post was somewhat personal but I grieved with my words knowing that so much could be done to end this but yet little in reality is actually put out towards its eradication. We can’t be silent even if not so much action is taken, we can only speak and write until the depth of pain is recognised dear. Thank you for your lovely take on this. Thank you for reading too.

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  13. nirvanasden says:

    You’re welcome
    And we’ll continue to speak and write till our pain is recognised.

    Liked by 1 person

  14. Raney Simmon says:

    So true. This is beautiful. Sadly, I can relate to it oh so well.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. ipeniwrite says:

    Aww thank you for being vulnerable dear🌸🌸


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